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Why German men don’t flirt - Milka

Milka — Fri, 05 Sep 2008 02:01:25 +02:00

Wow, this article was right on the money!

I'm a German native but I live in the states now and I'm not planning on going back. I just love how men treat women over here. They know how to flirt and be considerate (yes, I do like it when a man opens the door for me). And it's not just American men, Hispanics and different Latin cultures are pretty good at making a women feel special as well.

With German Guys it's just like pulling teeth. Even if you know the guy likes you, he's still not going to make any moves. German men don't even know how to give a decent compliment to a woman and have no clue about the art of smooth talking. I think it's a lost cause!

Why German men don’t flirt - kristin

kristin — Sun, 24 Aug 2008 00:58:24 +02:00

Anna,

i totally agree with you. although I'm a lil bit young. ive had further encounters with british and spanish guys and let me tell you i got lucky with both of them just by giving them sexy eyes. BUT when it comes about german guys idk what to do. i mean it's like they had to know the girl from his whole entire life to talk to her or to get on with her. it suckss so bad. im very very attractive and have lots of sex appeal but german guys are so idk innocent. ugh. they are nice for long term relationships but when it comes about a "night of innocent fun" they just dont go for it. why's that? i mean whats their problem? im going to germany for 3 months this summer and id loveeeeeeeeee to have some fun. but im affraid german guys wont approach me. they should be more outgoing.

Why German men don’t flirt - Holly

Holly — Fri, 25 Jul 2008 20:58:40 +02:00

Hi! Sorry, I have to disagree. I live in Michigan in all of the German guys flirt with girls at the bar. I always been lucky with the germans. ;-)

Babel-Academy for Journalists - momo

momo — Wed, 23 Jul 2008 20:31:41 +02:00

wher'is the attachment? I don't find it....:O

Forget Romance – Buy a Bed - Ezther

Ezther — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 15:33:39 +02:00

or you just bought the biggest bed which fits into the room

it would be ridiculous to buy a double bed and stuff it into a room which was not big enough.

I'd be surprised if single people bought single beds when they had the money and the space to have a larger bed - that really would be more of a statement. eg. "I'd rather sleep alone."

Why German men don’t flirt - Hans Dieter

Hans Dieter — Thu, 17 Jul 2008 15:19:45 +02:00

Anna,

If you see a nice guy you like the look of and are frustrated that he has not come over to talk to you, why not go over to talk to him? He may not have noticed you.

Generally speaking, if you want something and don't say or do anything, you won't get it. And you will still be wondering why german guys don't flirt, when you could be flirting with one.

Sad to say but the age of white knights in shining armour whisking you away to their nice Schloss is over...

If you want some baby, you gotta go get it... ;-x

Why German men don’t flirt - Jax

Jax — Wed, 02 Jul 2008 20:26:35 +02:00

You are spot on here!

But - dont forget the big advantage of German men. They mean what they say and when they tell you they will call - they do!! And if they say they love you - chances are they do.

Rather have this any day than the average British bloke who says anything to get what they want...

p.s. my tip is asking them to show you round the town they live in at night - even Germans let their guard down after a few Hefeweisen!

The Weaker Sex - warmystorms

warmystorms — Fri, 20 Jun 2008 00:45:48 +02:00

wow!
your beautiful writing almost makes one forget how harrowing the situation must have been.
All strength to you
a,#

Why German men don’t flirt - claudio

claudio — Wed, 18 Jun 2008 13:09:07 +02:00

ahahahahahahahahaah

great anna

:-D

The Language of Love - teodora

teodora — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 16:34:27 +02:00

As a current Erasmus student I must say that language of love works indeed . Practice proves it.

Though missunderstandings might be really frustrating , one should keep in mind two key features in order to make it big in the cross-country gender communication:

1. Alcohol improves my foreign languages!
It sounds like an alcholic's motto, but it's actually working in informal meetings. So it doesn't mean that two glasses wodka would make you report sounds more convincing in the university!! Don't try it !

2. Body language is worldwide understood and similarly appreciated ! So if the first rule doesn't apply to you , you can never go wrong with this. Show what you mean instead of searching for the right word.

Good luck !

Why German men don’t flirt - teodora

teodora — Sat, 07 Jun 2008 12:48:15 +02:00

hey Anna ,

I just incidentally came across your post and I couldn't pass it by without expressing my concern about this issue.
Finally someone to put this well-known true black and white .
My stay in Germany ( Hannover ) completely confirms that anthropological phenomen. Here the arguments:
- I'm female, single, jung, not Anjelina Jolie , but still attractive;
-I've been to others countries also and I know many men from others nationalities.
-and I can say , there are nowhere species like the German man to find (fortunately).

Not only they wouldn't treat you like a sexual object, but they would act like they are too busy to lose they time picking up a girl . Or worse, they think that will affect you somehow. I wounder how they get married here . It's this the beginning of a new unisex generation , having in mind the further self-dependence of the women.
I'm not sure I want this.

I still want to be chatted by drunk boys in smoky clubs, though I would always first laught at them .
finally, that's our nature...
they have to change, otherwise all the girls here will immigrate to Spain or some other place with bigger chance to continue their kind.

Forget Romance – Buy a Bed - Rmatt

Rmatt — Fri, 09 May 2008 14:18:19 +02:00

I see the bed sizing difference in an other way !

In Germany, tipically, people love to have 160, 180 or 200 cm large beds, whereas in France we are used to have 140cm large beds.

In Germany, their prefer to have two "covers" to sleep, one for each, whereas in France we are used to share only one.

I also think that this might be a sign of absence of Romance, but rather by usually being separated also in bed.

But with my 140cm large bed, I definitely want to be attached !

Matthieu

Why German men don’t flirt - Ocki

Ocki — Sat, 12 Apr 2008 16:14:19 +02:00

Hi Anna, thats pretty much a brilliant analysis of the situation. I am a German, originally from a city close to Cologne and I would never flirt with a zoologist. Kidding! I do think it depends on the place you go to. Give Kaffee Burger a chance on sunday nights. You wont regret.

I agree with you - especially with the conclusion "Germans don´t go for risks". I tell you a joke - some suppose it is about the famous Berliner Tempo, said to be fast!

A man flirt with a woman. After 30 seconds he says: "Young Lady, I am a man of speedy decisions. You shine into my eyes, may I kiss you?" She says: "Well at first I wasnt too sure, but then you convinced me!"

Some say it is about German romantic attitude - finding love at first side. Check out the book THE GERMANS by Gordon E. Craig. Its fucking brilliant. Or send me a message and come over for coffee please!

Forget Romance – Buy a Bed - Aido15

Aido15 — Tue, 04 Mar 2008 23:42:46 +01:00

Brilliant.. genius link-up at the end, more please!!

Saturday Recap - Mr. Lear

Mr. Lear — Mon, 11 Feb 2008 22:32:56 +01:00

I´ve been there 2007 and the Talent Campus was inspiring and excellently organized. To contact young upcoming filmartists it´s the best place !

Babel-Academy for Journalists - sara

sara — Wed, 28 Nov 2007 15:43:04 +01:00

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